This week has been filled with much introspection, not all of it to the betterment of myself but all of it useful in it's own way I suppose.
I have come to the conclusion that I am still haplessly in love with the guy I left behind in AK. This is particularly troublesome for me because I KNOW he doesn't love me now and never will love me... at least not in the way I love him. He loves me as a friend (with benefits on occasion) but nothing more. I have resigned myself to contentment with this as I believe it will pass with time. None-the-less it is still hard for me to be in love with anyone as that is something I have reserved for... well no one in a very long time.
I am convinced that my love is too strong for the people I do love, even if they aren't the sole objects of my feelings, I do tend to focus. That's the OCD in me. He is... someone whom I have grown accustomed to. He has been very kind to me, kinder than anyone before him, and he treats me like I am special even though he says he doesn't have deeper feelings for me. I think sometimes that he is lying. That is likely wishful thinking on my part but still a nice fantasy to have.
My room mate here is... strange? I suppose that is the best way to put it. I mean, I know people change but I hadn't realized the extent to which he had changed until tonight. We were having dinner and talking and somehow got on the subject of smoking pot. I have and I find it is wholly relaxing for me and it makes me happy. That being said I don't do it often, haven't in several months as a matter of fact, but I would again if I had a stable job and it was readily available to me.
His opinion is that any type of mind altering substance is a form of escapism, I disagree with that. I do a lot of things simply because they make me feel good, not because I am trying to escape anything. I wasn't surprised by that statement but I was by the following, "I'm not debating this with you. I'm just going to negate everything you say by telling you you're wrong."
I have to say, I am pretty sure I did a double take when he said that. What? I mean, really? That isn't even an intelligent statement. Had he said something like, "You have the right to your opinion but I am going to disagree" I would have been cool with that. As it is he treated me as though I was a child who had no experience, no education, and no right to have a valid opinion. That upset me, REALLY upset me, possibly beyond all reason.
I am all for debate and discussion but just blindly negating whatever someone else has to say by refusing to listen or take into consideration their opinions and experiences? What is that? I don't do that with anyone. I have very strong opinions on things but I am always willing to listen to another persons thoughts on the matter and, if necessary, adjust my POV accordingly. I honestly would never have thought he had such a fundamentalist mindset of "whatever I say is right because I say it and you aren't allowed to have a contradictory opinion because it's wrong." None of my friends has ever said anything akin to that to me. We are all reasonably intelligent and full of facts, opinions, and experiences we love to present to each other, that was mind boggling.
That being said, I'm not sure that I can be friends with him... at least not the way we used to be. Someone who displays that much of a lack of interest in alternate opinions or ideas kind of scares me. I don't know, this might take an awful lot more thinking on my part before I decide what to do. He's been my friend for 12 or 13 years now and I've never seen him do that before but... he has shown that side to me fairly often as of late so... eh.
Other news... tra la la... there isn't any. My life is fairly boring right now, an eternity of just waiting for things to start happening. =P Hope everyone is doing alright!
